I like this girl, but she is sooooo confusing, what do you think?

i'm a 20 year old guy,There's this girl, i knew back in grammar school, but didnt actually know her, jus knew who she was, hadnt seen her in a long time. i saw her at the gym bout a month ago and we started talkin. for the next 3 days, she constantly IMed me, left me facebok comments, said she wanted to hang out, and gave me her number witout me even asking for it. We hang out, i try to make a move on her and she backs off. So now everytime i try to talk to her she jus says she has to go right away or jus doesnt answer, so i apologized for makin her feel uncomfortable and she said its fine. SO i saw her at the gym a week ago for the first time since we hung out. As soon as she sees me she asks me to go on the treadmill with her, then asks me if i wanna workout abs and legs wit her, etc etc. And she was going wherever i was going at the gym. anddd even asked me to go to a %26amp; p with her loll. but ever since then she hasnt contacted me once. im jus confused cause she sendin mixed signal

I like this girl, but she is sooooo confusing, what do you think?
It sounds to be like she's playing games with you. Either that or she wants to be more than friends but then gets scared for some reason. Some people have a lof of hidden issues.
Reply:The signals are clear to me. She finds you attractive and has put you in her possible Mr. Right category.





But with that said (and she told you that non-verbally when she paid attention to you), she is now trying to figure out whether you really like her or just want to bang her.





She made it clear that she's not looking for a guy who just wants to bang her, and although you initially disqualified yourself, you made up for it later by apologizing to her.





She's now giving you another try by allowing you go get invovled with her in other ways. Working out with her (instead of having sex). Going to the grocery store with her (I guess that's what you meant by A%26amp;P) instead of having sex. Now that she's given you the signals, she waiting to see whether you've caught on to what she's looking for.





She's looking for Mr. Right. Not a guy who just wants to bang her. If she's Ms. Right, you won't mind. If she's not Ms. Right, you will mind and should move on to find someone else who just wants to have sex. If and when you do that, she'll move on to finding Mr. Right elsewhere.





Hope you won't take offense, but you seem to interpret interest from a woman as a signal that she wants to have sex with you. And you are not exactly wrong in thinking that, because quite often that is exactly the case. But, some women (believe it or not) want to also know whether that's all you want from them, and they do what she's doing to find out.





Initially, she showed interest in you.


Then you made it clear that you want sex.


Nothing wrong with that. You're a man and she's a woman.


But she rejected that to find out whether that's all you want.


If that was all you wanted, you should have moved on.


But you didn't. You apologized instead.


So, she thinks there's a possibility that aren't just trying to bang her.


And she asked you to workout with her.


You did, and that was great.


She's now waiting to see what you'll do next.


If she's special, you'll call her and spend time with her.


If she's just a potential piece of tail, you'll be confused.


She'll eventually figure you out.


You need to make a decision.


If you just want sex, your best move is to move on.


She no dummy.


She won't be duped.


She'll figure you out and dump you.


And that's the truth.





To net it out:


If you like her more than just for sex, call her.


If you just want sex, move on to easier prey.


This girl is no dummy.


And the guy who wins her heart is going to have found someone very special for himself. From your perspective, it should simply be a matter of deciding whether she's THE one you're willing to give up all other women to be with or not.





The choices are not a matter of right or wrong. They are a matter of being happy or unhappy. And the wise thing to do is to be honest with yourself. if you can give up all the other women, go for this one. If you can't give up all the other women, go for the other women, cuz trying to include this one with all the other women will certainly bring you unhappiness. If you're a player, you need to be able to recognize the smart ones and walk away from them. They will be nothing but trouble for you. You'll be a much happier player by concentrating on the easy ones. You are no doubt an attractive man, otherwise this one would not have paid any attention to you, so moving on and attracting easy women should not be a problem for you if that's the route you choose to take.
Reply:I think you need to plain ask her out on a date An old fashion date Movie dinner whate ever but NO ....... you know what while you are out on a date. Get to know her. Take time and effort out for her. See how it goes Already you are few steps backwards because she has already taken over from what you would normally have done on your own time. It is too bad she made moves on you too fast too soon. It really put you on the spot It was no longer in your hands. She asked to IM you and did so and you noticed she asked first before you did If she does not go out with you, then stop the relationship because right now it is all on her terms and you dont seem to have a say in it. Do not just be her hound. And ask to see if there is man in her life. Ask questions to her. If it gets really uncomfortable for you, like if she does not go out with you on a date, than consider changing the time you go to the gym or change gyms. And next time, do not let a lady make the first moves on you. If a lady asks for your email etc etc first, that means she is starting to dominate and it takes out what you were going to do naturally. Next time say, no I dont give out my messenger to pretty ladies but would you like to go on a date with me.instead. Chatting and talking on a messenger is not going out and getting to know each other Talking face to face will give you more information about this lady. Make sure your ball stays in your court, do not hand over your control again. She did not make a smart move on you. Whether that affects your relationship, if it comes to that , or not will remain to be seen. If a man accepts a woman pursuing him, then he becomes a push over to her. So stop her from pushing you around.
Reply:she aint really sending you mixed messages lol. Your just moving to fast. She might just want a friend for now. Tkae your time GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!
Reply:women like it when they can play with guys... they like to feel powerful... make her feel less powerful, play with her, and then you'll have her.
Reply:Try it again. Maybe the first time she was playin hard to get.
Reply:don't be so available, sounds like she wants to hunt, and your not hiding, if you like her, and don't mind her thinking she has bagged you, ......well that's the kind you got there
Reply:If she is not showing 100% interest in being more than friends with you, then there are no mixed signals. She is sending one signal, and that is "I know you like me, but I am just not attracted to you like that, there are other girls out there and I know that you can find another girl that will make you happy. Let's just be friends". And to conclude with that long interpretation of what signal she sent you, I would like to add that it would be in your best interest at this point to start finding another potential girlfriend.
Reply:i think it could become something in the future if you play your cards just right but you moved to fast for her man to tell you the truth . you need to relax and take it easy for a while . but it is very obvious that she wants you as a friend bro . and the fact she forgave you is a good sign . but if she isn't calling you for a while chances are she could have a bf or another interest. hope it helps man .
Reply:she's totally playing you...girls, and i do mean girls, are all about themselves and will use you and play with you for their own amusement. don't take the bait...next time she tries to yank your chain, tell her you aren't interested and walk away...that will deflate her bubble and make you feel like the man you ought to feel like.
Reply:dont talk to her. let her put in the effort. she wants a chase so let her have it
Reply:dont show her your pikachoo


its too small
Reply:maybe she just wants to be friendssss :/





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